When working with clients, I usually find that at the root of their problems lies a lack of self-love and self-esteem. I will ask a client whether they love themselves. Most of the time I get the answer, “Of course I do.” I usually follow this question with, “Well, do your actions say the same thing as your words?” I will challenge the client to evaluate their past days, months, or even years to see if their description of how they say they feel about themselves is congruent